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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you sound like my husband.  Wants the sex transaction, which is his business if he wants to demand it, but also wants wife to want/like it, so he doesn't feel like a jerk, which sort of sounds "thoughtful," but in my view ultimately is selfish. ... If she really cares to do it for the sake of enjoying sex, great. If not, and she just does it to please you - hopefully with some good acting - so be it.
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HD wife here. The problem is that if the spouse who "wants the sex transaction" can get it from someone other than the LD spouse, someone who really wants it, there's just no contest.  I absolutely hate when my DH has duty sex. I'd rather just handle it on my own.[/quote]

Yes, it is a problem when the HD spouse can get it elsewhere (I don't think that is a new concept).  My point is to question how perfect sex for HD spouse has to be.  To say "I want sex and you have to want it with me for it to be 'real'" is getting pretty needy.  Perhaps it was easier in the days where if the wife just lay there to get it over with; now the expectation of husbands is that wife should play the role of a  hooker.  My marriage "contract" (to use the word of others in this thread) did not call for that.  There is no good way out of this situation, I will readily admit.[/quote]

How about the wife plays the role of a wife in a marriage whereby sex is enjoyed by both parties.  No one is calling the wife to be a hooker.[/quote]

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