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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As the title says.  We don’t hate kids or anything, but we have encountered a number of instances over the last several years of our close friends and coworkers blurting out loud with very frank off the cuff remarks that we did it right and that they basically regret having their kids due to stress, finances, and lack of freedom.  One coworker recently asked what we were doing for vacation this year, and I told her that we are going to Europe.  She let out a loooong sigh and said, “I wish I were you and did it right.”  I didn’t know how to respond and said nothing. Another family friend always, alllllways talks about how much better off he thinks he would have been if he didn’t have his two sons (one has a disability that requires intense care).  I have no doubt he loves his sons, but I think he is definitely convinced his life would have been better (and definitely easier) without them.

But what is with so many parents seemingly regretting having their children these days? And not only that, but blurting the quiet part out loud is now acceptable?  It’s also uncomfortable to tell us this simply because we don’t have kids.  I don’t know what to say to you when you tell me you regret the biggest decision you made in your life, which is to produce another human. [/quote]

I think they are trying to make you feel good. So many couples can’t have kids so they are downplaying their biggest joy. And yes, biggest everything else. But I assure you, they wouldn’t change anything. 
I am in my 60s and I see a great deal of sadness in friends who lived the dink life. The really sad thing is when they talk about who to leave their money to. 
Being a parent is the hardest thing a person can do. 24/7 hard. It’s natural to fantasize about a break. [/quote]

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