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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Girls drop mid week because the algorithm is set up to push girls into the unpopular houses to save the chapters.  Girls aren’t  falling for it. They want to rush all week and have a choice to make at the end.  They’re told to find the right fit until they’re down to the one house the university is trying to save and then they’re told to just take what you get and don’t complain. Sounds like fun? [/quote]

This is a really stupid statement,[/quote]

+1
It’s asinine.
What the PP (who thinks she has cracked the code) is missing is that prior to changing the algorithm to “push the girls” toward considering houses they may not have wanted prior to rush week, sororities used to be able to invite any number they wanted to each round. And so all the girls would think they were destined to be a DDD so they’d keep going back there and drop other groups so that they could go back every night. Then the last night, girls who were sure they were going to get a DDD bid were left without a bid at all.
The algorithm just introduces the ones who were never going to be members of DDD to that reality much sooner so that they can have time to adjust their expectations and find another group they like before the last night of rush. 
There’s no great way to make everyone happy. But unlike PP’s fantasyland scenario, the reality is many girls never would have had that “end of week” choice. The math doesn’t math on that.
This is like thinking the star football player is going to ask you to the prom, so you turn down invitations from the nice valedictorian, the cool soccer goalie, and the hilarious drama dude when they ask you…only to find out the week of prom that star football player is going with head cheerleader and not you. Guess what? The truth is he was never going to ask you. He was always going with head cheerleader. And yeah, maybe it would have hurt a little if you had found that out three weeks ago, but wouldn’t you rather have understood that reality sooner so that you had considered those other options when you had the chance? But now it’s too late. You’re home crying on prom night. [/quote]

So the star QB was always going to prom with the head cheerleader = the "top" sororities already know who they're going to invite before rush even starts?  [/quote]

That’s right. Welcome to reality. [/quote]

So why even have the dog and pony show of rush?  It's more fun when there are crying girls at the end?[/quote]

Exactly. And Yes.  Because Greek life is all about perpetuating social hierarchy. I’m not being sarcastic. [/quote]

DP. For sure. And parents, if your daughter is at the top of the social hierarchy at her NoVa high school, this will not matter whatsoever in the UVA Greek system. [/quote]

Being from NOVA is a huge strike against getting into top tier, in fact. Absolutely works against you. [/quote]

Forgive my ignorance, but why does that work against you?[/quote]

I’m a few decades past learning this first hand, but if probably hasn’t changed that much (considering the three top-tiers are exactly the same). The NoVa kids are so plentiful, nothing stands out about them. They’re all kind of lumped together and people get tired of hearing that you’re yet another kid from Northern Virginia. I guess certain private school girls from NoVa might have an edge, but in general, these super wealthy out-of-state girls have no interest whatsoever in knowing the average suburban girl from TJ or Robinson or whatever. Different universes. [/quote]

Exactly this. There's nothing exotic or elite or even interesting about your basic girl from FCPS or LCPS or Alexandria, APS or PW County.[/quote]

They do not want exotic. [b]They want conformity[/b].  [/quote]

Well, to be fair, when was the last time
you went out and sought to join a group that had nothing in common?
It seems weird to expect women to seek to join a sorority of women who are UN-like them.
[/quote]

Compatibility and conformity are two different things. [/quote]

Agree. But perception is reality and I think sororities are often accused of courting conformity when the nature of girls on pacts tends to self impose this.
Even “non-sorority types” conjur an image of conformity. Are the group of teen girls wearing black retro metal-band tees and  sporting various brightly-dyed hair colors and and nose rings who hang out together at the local high school conforming in the way they dress alike? Or are they grouping themselves tigether based on interests and compatibility. I think the two ideas are often cousins.[/quote]

DP. I don’t know, I think there’s a difference between conforming with your peer group, and conforming with some notion of how a young women needs to present herself in order to mix with the right fraternity. (And therefore bag the right kind of mate.) They’re both conforming, but one is vying for the ultimate evolutionary prize.[/quote]

But if that’s your view of sorority women and their goals in 2024, I think that’s a you-issue. Not sure there is anyone anything can say to change your mind.

But please don’t try to say that you “support all women” with that insulting viewpoint.[/quote]

If I have to support this system to be able to “support all women,” the you’re right, I guess I don’t. [/quote]

Such a sad, pathetic, and closed-minded human.[/quote]

Lady, I went through rush at UVA. I was open-minded about it and then I saw it for what it was. [/quote]

Hahaha same. Sounds like not much has changed at all. Both my rooommate and I ended up dropping out of rush for different reasons - me because I was squicked out by the over-the-top performative 'sisterhood' at some of the houses where I was invited back for prefs (none of which actually felt like a fit for me), and my roommate because she was black-balled at the only house she wanted (Theta) because she made the apparently unforgivable faux pas of announcing where other sorority women could hear her (at Coupe's) that she was only considering them - she was 100% their type (money, connections, intelligence) so it seemed really vindictive. Similarly, I remember a suitemate sobbing when she was cut from KD after house tours, but then plastering on a smile to accept her bid from XO the next day...[b]in hindsight, I probably would have had much more success and a better experience overall had I waited to rush as a second year - most first years are just so unprepared to make a good decision because they're motivated only by 'wanting to be wanted'.[/b] [/quote]

I wish everyone everywhere would be required to wait until second year to rush.  First year rush just shouldn't be a thing at all.  Give these kids a chance to settle in at college, adjust to being away from home for the first time, and see if they can make friends organically before deciding whether they really want to put themselves through this. [/quote]

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