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[quote=Anonymous]It’s obvious a lot of people in this thread have absolutely no idea how hard it is to be the default parent 100% of the time.

If my H and I got divorced I would absolutely expect to be fairly compensated. Because I do everything except the money part. 
1.cook 
2. Clean
3. Coordinate and am here for every service appointment/repair
4. Coordinate and take our kids to every single appointment/school function. Fun fact-my spouse doesn’t even know who our kids go to besides their pediatrician. And he only knows that because he came to the first appointment when our first child was born. 
5. Do all the shopping. Food, supplies, kids clothes, toiletries (including my husbands) etc…
6. Keep the mental load of 100% of everything.
7. Take my kids to all activities/friend’s  houses etc…
Although I work a little as well, My job has to be 100% flexible as I literally never know when I will get a call that one of my kids is sick etc…I am home for every day they have off from school/half days etc…if we were to divorce I would have lost years and years of career advancement when he didn’t. That’s a thing and it’s absolutely recognized by the legal system. So there is no “you won’t get shit” about it. That’s simply not how it works and for good reason. I’m thankful I have the kind of career that I can go back to and be successful but not every woman has that (they should always have a back up plan but they don’t).

Even on the weekends it’s me. It’s always me. And it’s exhausting. So save it. Default parenting is hard AF and it is a JOB.

One of my kid’s teachers thought I was a single mom for the entire year one year because she never saw my husband. Not once. [/quote]

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