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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Pp here. Husband’s workload and amount he contributes to the childcare and household duties matter greatly. Dh could not put his all in at work if he had to take the sick day hits, go to work late and leave early the way I used to when I worked. [b]DH never took a sick day in his working life for himself or for the kids. [/b]He doesn’t stay home if the school has a snow day or 2 hour delay. I took that burden every single time.

Would he have only earned 500k vs $2m if we split child duties? I could have continued to earn 200k to his 500k. When I worked, he may have taken a week off during Xmas and I would have taken a week. He likes having a stay at home wife. He never has to worry about the kids.[/quote]

The bolded is very sad to me. He cares so little. [/quote]

This is how I know you don’t have a net worth of $10 million, and neither do your parents or any of your friends.  
This is how these men are.

I always found the idea of a man cold bizarre.  I don’t know any men who lay around in bed if they are sick.  They still go to work.

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Quite the opposite. The man cold is real. Real good dads do take sick days for their kids. What is sad is because you don’t know any men like this (including your H) you think it’s normal, it’s not.[/quote]

I know lots of men and women who take sick days for their kids.  I’m not saying that it’s normal to never take a sick day.  Normal men and women do this all of the time.

What I’m saying is that the people who are at the top of their profession and making a ton of money don’t do this.  The woman making $800k/yr is the woman who comes back to work while her infant is in the NICU because there is no point in sitting around the hospital all day.  
The guy making this amount doesn’t take off work because his kid is sick.

These people are married to partners who either SAH or work PT and pick up all of the slack with the kids.

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I know you desperately want to believe this because you want to excuse your disinterested husband’s lack of concern for his kids, but it is simply not true. [/quote]

Well, it’s not my husband.  It’s my father and my work colleagues.

I mean, my friend who went back to work when her infant was in the NICU took time off when her infant came home.  She isn’t a monster.  She’s just very pragmatic.

I don’t know why you are saying that this isn’t true.  Do you work with or live with anyone making a million a year?  
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I agree with you. People who are in demanding high income jobs will even work when sick, they'll just work from home. They'll work from their hospital bed after giving birth and during vacations. Inconveniences are not suffered, regardless of others looking down on them for it. That's why they progress in their fields.[/quote]

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