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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t know, am I really outdated? I teach ny kid to take a spoonful of everything that’s being passed around and take a bite of each of those spoonfuls on his plate? [/quote]

Yes, this is outdated advice on how to help kids have a healthy relationship with food. [/quote]

Though I bet her kids eat a lot more variety because of it. [/quote]

I bet you're wrong, or that the variety they're eating in only happening because they're forced and will dry up once they are finally allowed to make their own choices. [/quote]

Is this some kind of new parenting trope?? My kids are 6 and 8 and I make them TRY everything. I say "You're allowed to not like it but not until you taste it." Many times they end up admitting they like something they didn't want to eat. I made some curry yesterday that obviously didn't look good to them (orange slop on rice!) but they ended up devouring it. So we're supposed to let kids only eat what they like now? My kids would live on carbs.[/quote]

No, this is the evidence-based approach to raising healthy kids, with some exceptions for kids who have a diagnosed feeding issue.

My kids are in college now. They can eat whatever they want. They eat a balanced diet because they've learned how to eat and exercise to feel good.[/quote]

Do they go to Thanksgiving meals at people’s houses and demand a special menu? If not, then great. But I know way too many people who don’t eat [insert list here] for non-medical or non-ethical reasons and expect to be accommodated. And it’s straight-up rude. You eat what your host makes unless you truly cannot. [/quote]

You eat what you want of what's provided. It's straight-up rude to demand a different meal from your hosts (and I don't think anyone has advocated that), but it's also straight-up rude to demand that another human being eat something because you decided they should. You don't have to eat the beets if you don't want the beets. But you don't get to complain about the beets, either. [/quote]

On the subject of trying everything, I don't make my son do that anywhere but at home. The last thing I want the host to see is my kid trying to politely hide his obvious gag-grimace. He has good manners and I've seen him try many foods without making a face even if he doesn't like it. But there's a limit for everyone. My inlaws used to make TONS of sides, including one Uncle's fave canned-oyster casserole, one aunt's turkey gizzards, etc. Thankfully my sil has taken over thanksgiving. 
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