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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]New to this thread...

We moved our kid from public to a DC private high school a few years ago. We're still good friends with a few families from public but I've been pretty purposeful about never portraying private as great (as frankly it is't always)---I'm either really open about the good, bad and ugly or I don't say anything.  Almost always (99% of the time) it's the later--I keep the conversation on the 15 other things we can talk about---general kid issues, work, vacation, etc.

That said, last evening I went to a sporting game between my kid's current private high school and the public high school that they would have attended.  I saw the broader circle of people we used to know: car pool buddies, sports teams members, etc.  I was almost universally snubbed.  It was weird and uncomfortable. These are people I never once talked about private school with and in the past we always had pleasant conversations when running into each other.  It was striking. I'm kind of a sensitive person by nature and I left the evening feeling really down. (I know, I know---I don't have to be universally liked but people were cold)  The public/private divide runs deep in DC.   :cry:  [/quote]

Why are you assuming they ignored you because your kid moved to private school? They probably weren’t really your friends to begin with and forgot about you since you they didn’t see you for a few years and your kid no longer goes to the same school as theirs. Just like if you moved away, you would grow distant from many of the parents of your child’s previous school.[/quote]

Because we had driven each others' kids for years and years--we had had hundreds of hours of sideline conversation.  I don't think a friendly hello (for a minute) would be too much to expect.  I wasn't born yesterday--I've left jobs, houses, schools of my own and 99% of the time when I run into someone I once knew and say a hello to them they are friendly back.  Not this crowd.  Maybe it wasn't the private/public thing.  Maybe it's just the weird DC thing.  
Their response does not mirror the "run ins" with acquaintances that I've experienced from any other situation I've left in my lifetime.  [/quote]

There's a family at our school that just switched to private and expects everything to be exactly the same, but it's not. For one thing, we were never really friends, we were acquaintances and now that we don't see each other regularly, we're not even acquaintances anymore. Our kids aren't going to stay friends, as much as you try, we have other priorities. It is what it is. Make more real friends.[/quote]

You're being purposefully obtuse.  I'm not looking for ongoing friendship or "real friends" when I say hello on a sideline. Simply a friendly hello when I extend one.  If you're unable to give that to families who left for private school then you're an angry person with big problems.  [/quote]

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