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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote] your sexual wants &gt; kids having an intact family [/quote]

A marriage license isn’t a suicide pact. If the wife checks out of the marriage to the extent of giving up sex, things happen. Cause, effect.[/quote]

Exactly. If you don’t want to married to someone who doesn’t want to have sex, you get a divorce. Cause, effect.

You stay honest and keep your integrity. 
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Imagine describing your desire to have sex as your life, so that not having it when you want is suicide. [b]You can thank 24/7 porn access for the impotent men furiously masturbating to the fantasy that someone, someday will put out anytime they want [/b]and their kids will definitely be fine.[/quote]

People have always loved sex and people have always cheated. 
But this attitude that men have that they will literally die if they don't have sex is relatively new. No one spoke about sex this way 25 years ago. 
We have young men wasting their lives jerking off to po-n, and even if they manage to find a willing partner, they have no idea how to have sex in real life, and their equipment no longer works. 
This is a real problem, and it's pathetic to see middle aged men behaving this way. [/quote]

It's interesting you are on a thread specifically for men in sexless marriages and comparing them to men who demand 24/7 access.

But anyway, these threads are generally useless because it is always a debate between those who consider sex an essential part of marriage and an important part of a healthy life and those who don't. We know which camp you are in. It's ok, you would be fine in a sexless marriage if everything else was fine. A lot of people feel that way, especially women, apparently.[/quote]

DP but it’s more accurate to frame it as people who view sex as their due vs. people who view sex as a something they’re both responsible for in a marriage. [/quote]

I have always viewed sex as one of the essential parts of marriage, like love, kindness, companionship. No one dies without any of those, but it's not much of a marriage, at least to me. I understand no one is owed any of those things, and lots of people, apparently women in lesbian marriages, are content without sex.

I also know that no matter how much lecturing goes on in these threads that most people and men especially will end up cheating if they are denied at home. And as much as people love to blame porn, last I checked, cheating didn't start when the internet started.

My guess is these threads strike a nerve with betrayed wives who project their suffering on anonymous men. Understandable.[/quote]

I'm not a betrayed wife. In fact, I never married --and have paid all of the social penalties as a single woman-- because I know that I am not suited to marriage. I know plenty of men who never married either, mostly artistic types who can't settle down and commit. Do you think none of them wanted children? Do you think none of them wouldn't like a stable home life to come back to when they're done touring? People make choices. Lots of men do nothing but sleep around and at some point decide to marry and start a family knowing full well that they're not going to be having as much sex anymore.

You guys just want it all and refuse to accept that almost no one has everything. You need to grow up and make some tough decisions.

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