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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m redshirting my July daughter [/quote]

Ditto.  She's 4 and my youngest child and she's not happy about that.   She's always the youngest in the class too and she's more immature.  Another year of childhood seems like a great gift to give her.[/quote]

She isn't less mature.  You are not comparing her to her actual peers and kids a year younger.  You are doing it for her, not you.  You aren't giving her an extra year of childhood.  You are taking away a year of being an adult and forcing them to continue being a child.[/quote]

Meh I'd rather my kid enter adulthood mature, ready for the next step, and with confidence than launching them too soon. I'll take my chances with the gift of time rather than roll the dice and find out that it would be an uphill battle and struggle by forcing them before they were ready because of an arbitrary cutoff. You only get one chance to get it right. I know people who regret sending the kids on time when they were young and immature, I don't know anyone who regrets redshirting. It's not robbing them of a year of adulthood, it's making sure they are as ready and a prepared as they can be to get the most out of their education. It's not a race.[/quote]

Same here. I bet if you looked at everyone who ever dropped out of college or took longer than 4 years to graduate, you'd see that the vast majority started before they were 18.[/quote]

This is pure conjecture to serve your made-up narrative. My kid is starting college at 17 and does not want a gap year. Same with several friends who just turned 18. A friend's son went to college at 17, is a few years out and is now a successful business owner. On the other hand, we know several redshirted kids who are taking gap years and one is going to a technical school (a very good one).

I worried about my kid being behind in 3rd grade, and his teacher said she had no idea he was younger. He also had friends, two who were BFFs for awhile, who were 18 months older than him -- no biggie for the parents worrying about that. Some redshirted kids definitely have an advantage in HS sports. There's a sophomore who is huge because he should be a junior. But, he's bigger than both parents (how would you know this would happen at 5), and really is not a smart guy (so I can see why he was held back). OP, just do what feels best and stop obsessing. You cannot predict how it will turn out. We never talked about redshirting either way with my 17 yo, but in junior high he said out of the blue, "thanks for believing I was smart enough to start on time." Kids become aware of ages when there are birthday parties. Could a kid say the opposite that they were grateful to have the time. Probably. We just can't predict the future when our kids are 4/5. [/quote]

DCUMs antiredshirters are so weird. It's fascinating.[/quote]

I am fascinating and weird, but you are reading with goggles. I'm not antiredshirt. I literally do not care, but you didn't call out the pp before making unsubstantiated claims. I pointed out anecdotally that it had no basis, which is all we have for that stupid claim. I said that my kid had no problem with being friends with older kids, which many antiredshirters worry about. I did say that the one kid is not smart, but he does have an advantage now in HS, so perhaps all is well and good.

Should I say the same about you as proredshirter, which you must be if you're calling me an antiredshirter. [/quote]

Calm down Tracy Flick.

As you don't seem to know the basics, the way to respond to an unsubstantiated general claim is with data. Not with some weird af anecdote that comes across as socially stunted.

I didn't call out the other lady because she made up some claim but it didn't get weirdly personal. That is the difference here. DCUMs antiredshirts are largely incapable of statistics, so I get it because I've seen this pattern over and over again, but it still fascinates me.

I didn't redshirt by the way. [/quote]

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