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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When we had kids, DW became a SAHM and our discussion was always that she’d return to the workforce at some point.  It’s now 15 years later, kids are in high school, and she is working part-time.  I just did our taxes and she only earned $18k last year - I am a GS-15 so by no means a rainmaker.  We are behind on savings, college 529, etc and I’m tired of having to agonize over every financial decision because our finances are so precarious.  DW has a Masters and could be making $60-70K full time but doesn’t want to - she has many stay at home friends who are married to rainmakers, but that’s not me.  I told her tonight that I’m at my wits end and she needs to step up.  She doesn’t want to work full time - neither do I but I suck it up for the family.  I’m very frustrated and can’t get DW to pick up the slack.  I am very involved at home and with the kids so she has supper there.  How can I make her understand that we can’t always get what we want?!?[/quote]

[b]let me get my violin.  please.  You make what I do.  Because I'm the same.   I'm 42, have paid off my mortgage, and we're raising 3 kids on that exact salary.   
budget better[/b].[/quote]

This.  :thumbup: [/quote]

I agree. OP's wife DOES work full time. With her job and the job she does at home, Op needs to understand that.[/quote]

So wait, do I then work two jobs? Because I take care of the house and kids AND I work full time. And I make more than my husband!  [/quote]

If you do all the household labor and you’re the breadwinner, then you’re a sucker who should have gotten a long time ago.

OPs wife takes care of the children AND works part time. She contributes to her family.

You married a loser. Sorry. [/quote]

Nice try but I choose to work. My husband travels out of state for his job so he just isn't around to help out on a daily basis.

Unlike loser OP's useless wife, we have budgeted so that we can easily live on one salary - if one of us loses a job, nothing will change in our lifestyle except adding less money to savings. So much for OP's wife contributing... neither of them knows how to budget and she's certainly not stepping up and doing a great job running their household.

I couldn't wait to go back to work after maternity leave. I don't know how SAHMs deal with that tedium. [/quote]

Calling them losers for no reason makes me think you're one unhappy camper. A lot of odd projections about these people.

OP I'm sure there's a compromise. Talk to her about the budget and her feelings regarding college and savings. Let us know how it goes, good luck.

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