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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My son got into a top school EA. It was the school where dh and I attended. He is a top student in all respects, hard worker, great stats/rigor, leadership, community service, etc. And none of this was pushed/curated by us, he really drove it all (including applications), and we are really proud of him.

A couple of kids from school who got rejected said “oh but your parents went there” [b]like that’s the only reason he got in.[/b] I know it helps that we did, of course, but his stats match the student population, it’s not like he was pulled up despite bad grades/scores. We aren’t big benefactors either, it’s not like the school would see big donations in our history.

So how to respond if someone says that? [/quote]

The bolded is a huge assumption on your part that distracts from their more honest assessment that both parents having attended is likely the thing that pushed this application over the finish line.

There’s been a lot of talk on this thread about legacy benefit, but double legacy makes it even more obvious. You’re better off explaining this to your kid and teaching him to just respond by saying, “yeah it probably helped.” Because it did. Your trying to downplay it is disingenuous.

You also don’t know these other kids’ stats, but they likely know each other’s. They might have even had better stats—not by huge margins, given your kid matches the overall 
student population at the university, but still—which would make it even worse.[/quote]

“Make it even worse.”  No agenda here.[/quote]

Yes, make it even worse that you would keep pretending that legacy wasn’t the reason.

Sorry you are in denial and so triggered by this.[/quote]

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