Reply to Party requesting guests to take shoes off

Forum Index » General Parenting Discussion

Reply to "Party requesting guests to take shoes off"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t understand this. Since when does taking off shoes equal barefoot? Don’t people wear socks (most of the times)? If being barefoot makes you so uncomfortable, just wear socks. [/quote]

Socks are a slipping invitation.  I know someone who slipped and broke collar bone wearing socks at a "no shoes home" party. Why can't you just vacuum your floors after party like the rest of us?[/quote]
LOL again, something that never happened.

My gosh, americans are just cowering in fear of removing their shoes lest they get some horrific disease or break bones? GMAFB. Making up sh!t like this doesnt make your position stronger, it weakens it that you have to go to such extreme lengths to try and smear it. [/quote]

Then be a sh!tty host. People have told you they don’t want to take their shoes off but you’re going to insist they do anyway. There’s terrible hosting. So do what you want but you’re not in the right here. You’re making your guests uncomfortable on purpose. [/quote]

NP.

No- sorry not sorry.  Those are terrible guests for not removing shoes when requested.

People who dislike removing shoes in this situation are culturally insensitive.  Maybe even borderline racists.[/quote]

Ha, ok. You want to win because you think you can call people racist for not removing their shoes with no warning in a situation that is not expected (this is not an open house). You're not right and you're not better. You are, however, welcome to ask people to take their shoes off. And they are welcome to respond as they wish. [/quote]

But it my house my rules. You can back da f away [/quote]

DP but how do you not understand that the attitude of your response (my house my rules if you’re uncomfortable back da f away) is basically the definition of being a terrible host?  Good hosts prioritize the comfort of their GUESTS, not themselves.

So as multiple people have said, if you’re not prepared to be a good host, just don’t host.  Problem solved.[/quote]
You keep forgetting that people need to be good GUESTS too. Saying "my shoes stay on no matter what" is just as poor of an attitude for a guest to have in someone elses home. [/quote]

How your guests may or may not hypothetically behave has nothing whatsoever to do with whether you are being a good host.  If you can ONLY act like a good host if all of your guests are perfectly behaved (according to your own rules of acceptable behavior) then you are NOT a good host.

To be fair, no one is obligated to host anything.  If you don’t care at all about your guest’s comfort (which you clearly don’t) then just.don’t.host.[/quote]

Most people have house rules. No smoking, pork not served, shoes off, no alcohol, feet off the furniture, to name a few. it’s not a free for all for the guests to do as they please and have everything as they like it. I tell my kids to be respectful in other’s homes and follow rules that may not be the same as at our home. And I will remind kids who visit my home “in this house we do X.” Did some adults actually not learn those rules themselves? You may not agree but it’s the norm to respect their rules and customs for the short time you visit once pointed out. If someone asked you to smoke outside would you actually not comply b/c it’s cold out and you don’t want to? That would be ridiculous.[/quote]

Nobody is saying that guests shouldn’t follow your rules.  What we are saying is that if you put your rather arbitrary rules ahead of your guests’ comfort and enjoyment, you’re not a good host.  So I would of course follow your rules but if I was made to feel completely uncomfortable at your home, I would know to decline future invitations from you, because you clearly aren’t comfortable with other people being in your home.

I keep a shoes-off house myself.  But I would never dream of asking a large number of adults I had taken it upon myself to invite to my home for a party to take their shoes off.  Their comfort is more important to me than the cleanliness of my floors for that one evening.  [/quot

THIS. Someone reasonable! [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics