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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel for people who didn’t have options.

My job let me take a year of maternity leave per baby, promoted me while I was on maternity leave, [b]empowers my flexible schedule so my babies spend nearly every waking minute with me until preschool, and has provided my children (and parent, and sometimes spouse) with incredible opportunities for foreign travel and enrichment[/b]. It adds to our family life. The women in my family tend to have that kind of jobs where the work is enriching to the family. The men tend to work in roles that are more “grind” (ex my husband is in finance my FIL is an attorney)

I don’t think less of women who leave menial jobs to stay home. I feel for women who leave jobs they love and which are truly meaningful because they have no choice. But if I was choosing between menial office work that didn’t benefit my family I don’t see staying at home as a service-provider to be necessarily a worse choice?[/quote]

I'm really curious what this job is.  And by flexible schedule to spend every waking minute with your children, did that mean working part-time?  I don't care how flexible your job is, fitting in 8 solid hours of work while simultaneously being a fulltime caregiver for toddlers sounds impractical/exhausting.  Maybe I'm just really poor at multitasking, lol.[/quote]

I work in international development. I took a year off with each baby. After my first, I came to the office with my daughter at 10 every day and she took her morning nap at the onsite day care, or if she was off schedule she slept in my office. [b]I had my meetings scheduled between 10-11:30. At noon we nursed again, went for a walk (sometimes with a colleague, sometimes just us) and at one she played on the floor in my office. Form 2-3:30 she took her afternoon nap and I took a second meeting if needed. [/b]At four we went home. I did programmatic calls after she went to bed at 8 (actually seen as super accommodating when working with overseas colleagues) and before she woke up. I never stopped working full time but I’m sure there were days I put in fewer than eight hours as there were days I put in more than eight. When she dropped her morning nap I had to move my day around again, and at 2 she started preschool (I know there’s debate— some will say daycare— I don’t mind what you call it but it’s an accredited preschool).

When she was 13M she and my husband came with me to Thailand and Singapore on my first post-baby business trip and she and my dad came with me to Europe when she was 2. Her brother was a COVID baby and so no travel for him until he was 2, but he also spent every waking moment with me because we went fully remote. Our whole family went to Europe again this winter and my dad will join us for a trip to South America in the spring (I hope).
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honestly, this sounds a little ridiculous. i mean i can believe that that you had days like this, but the way you describe it defies credulity. the only way any of this is possible if your dad is some kind of trustee or something at this organization. no way a random mom is going to take two calls a day for many months and call it full time.[/quote]

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