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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Pp here. Husband’s workload and amount he contributes to the childcare and household duties matter greatly. Dh could not put his all in at work if he had to take the sick day hits, go to work late and leave early the way I used to when I worked. [b]DH never took a sick day in his working life for himself or for the kids. [/b]He doesn’t stay home if the school has a snow day or 2 hour delay. I took that burden every single time.

Would he have only earned 500k vs $2m if we split child duties? I could have continued to earn 200k to his 500k. When I worked, he may have taken a week off during Xmas and I would have taken a week. He likes having a stay at home wife. He never has to worry about the kids.[/quote]

The bolded is very sad to me. He cares so little. [/quote]

This is how I know you don’t have a net worth of $10 million, and neither do your parents or any of your friends.  
This is how these men are.

I always found the idea of a man cold bizarre.  I don’t know any men who lay around in bed if they are sick.  They still go to work.

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On the contrary, my friend. On the contrary.

You are just making excuses for a man who doesn’t care about his kids. [/quote]

It’s not an excuse.  It’s just reality.  People’s priorities and personalities are consistent across all facets of their life.  It just is.  [/quote]

That’s why many successful men are also successful parents, coaching, and doing ever you do.[/quote]

Most truly successful parents - men or women are not raising their kids.  Either their spouse is or the hired help.  Lets be real.  Except a rare exception, the wife and or help does 100% of the work and they just are home for a few hours to sleep and change and if the kids are lucky see them an hour or two a day and maybe weekends.  They aren't cooking, cleaning, taking the kids to the doctor, lawn care, buying clothing, etc.[/quote]

Yes there are.

Yes they have someone clean their house but so do SAHM’s, you know only a small sliver of dads if you don’t know any that also are involved in their kids lives.

They do morning routine and are at all there games, coach, help with homework, do bedtime routine, pick up, handle car pools, etc.

They might work after the kids are in bed, but most dads are fully involved in their kids lives.

It’s sad that you think it’s normal for your H to be an absent father, who even wants that life?[/quote]

DP. No, the high earners do not do this. They move their family to the burbs and are gone from 7am-8:30pm. Their version of being an “involved dad” is leaving the office at 7pm once a week to (barely) make it home for bedtime. It’s clear you don’t understand these lifestyles, which is totally fine. I wish I didn’t because it is actually very depressing to see up close.

The only exception I know of to this is one law partner who found a freakishly low-hours niche. [/quote]

Nope.

They may leave at 6am work 7-4, home by 5… run kids around, coach, make dinner, do bedtime routine.

Back online from 9-11.

It’s really not all that hard/uncommon.

Builders often are off by 3pm… then do paperwork after bedtime.

Comm real estate is the high yield slacker job, lax dads.

Sales is not seeing clients after 4 since clients need to get home.

Lots of boomers and gen x have no idea how the world works today.

Finance… they never work late their analysts might 
You sound like you only know big law.[/quote]

Somehow I don’t think you actually know any IB/law partners. [/quote]

The pp obviously has never worked or been around IB/big law or in high level real estate. Real estate development is not low key lax bros, not the guys doing the billion dollar developments earning millions.[/quote]

You can’t go to a lax game without being tortured talking to a few.[/quote]

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