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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]I think that most people who do freelance work or work less than about 20-30 hours a week still refer to themselves as SAHMs in these threads.

I have seen people refer to themselves as SAHMs even though they: 
- work at their kids elementary schools every day that the school is open 
- own and manage multiple rental properties 
- do freelance, hourly, or consulting work 
- do part time shift work (doctors and nurses) 
- do the books and some of the management for their husband's small business[/quote]

This is me — I make about 35k a year doing freelance consulting work but refer to myself as a SAHM on here. I also basically feel like a SAHM in life. I do not have the same juggle with job/commute/childcare that WOHMs deal with. I can always scale back work to accommodate parenting. Today I’m lying around the house cleaning and relaxing while my kid is at school because I’m between projects with work.

[b]I don’t think WOHMs want me as “one of them.” Especially on these boards, there’s a ton of martyrdom that goes along with it, like look at me, I do EVERYTHING a SAHM does PLUS I work, SAHMs are lazy, etc.[/b]

I just want to enjoy my life, make enough money that we can live fairly comfortably, get to spend time with my kid, and not stress too much. I learned a long time ago that my career is not that fulfilling, and motherhood offered me something more rewarding. So I seized that and just kind of finagled a solution on the work side. If we were independently wealthy, or my DH made a ton of money (he doesn’t, he makes around 100k which is less than I used to), I would not work at all, I’d write a novel or take up painting or volunteer at a museum.

Life is short and precious and I don’t want to spend it doing boring corporate work if I can avoid it, which it turns out I mostly can. [/quote]

Ha!  I feel you.

I like do like my job and work 1-2 evenings a week.  I started homeschooling my kids when the pandemic started and have continued because we have all been so happy with it.   I pretty much function as a homeschooling SAHM in my day to day life.  I don’t think the WOHMs want me as “one of them” either.  [/quote]

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