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[quote=Anonymous]My kid is like this.  When I saw the video I vividly remember my sons tantrums and inability to self regulate.  At 5, most kids are just starting to get SN dx.  It is around this time that the professionals agree that the behavior is outside normal ranges and can no longer be soley attributed to toddler/preschool tantrums.

I understand how the mom feels.  I felt thst way about my son many times.  The intensiity of life with a child who is that out of control and cannot hear or talk in the moment is unbelievable.  It is relentless.  Every day you walk on eggshells in fear of setting the child off.

I’ll admit this on an anonymous forum—I’ve screamed in my child’s face like the officer.  Even knowing how my son behaved and how I felt, it still shocked me.  Not that it really makes a difference but a non parent does not have the right to treat a child like that.  A parent doesn’t either but when you live with hours long tantrums every day for years it’s hard to always stay in control.  I would tell myself that yelling was better than hitting.

With training and education, the mom can learn strategies to de-escalate her son.  For my son, it was silent car rides.  The same ones you would do with a newborn.  My son is 12 now and he still will ask to go for a quiet drive if he needs help regulating.

As I write this I’m aware of my privilege.   I’m aware that I have mental health insurance and by 5 my son had a neuropsych and was in play therapy.  DH and I were in parenting training to learn how to manage our son.  The mom is going to need a lot of help raising her son and I hope she is able to get it.

What the officers did was horrible.  They could not have been with the kid for more than a few hours.  Yes it’s frustrating but as officers of the law they need to tune it out and treat him as a small child.

What I find interesting is that PEP is located at ESS.  Those teachers are trained in deescalation.  Why did no one ask them to come help the child.  Given his age I also wonder if the child was in PEP or in K.
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