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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why did you "tell" her, not ask her, per the title of your thread?

Why can't you get a better paying job?  In this economy, you can't find a better paying job?  What's wrong with you?

She's working PT already.  Could she really be pulling the salary you think after taking all those FT years off to raise your kids?  Sacrificing her career?
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They are her kids too.  She got all expenses paid during these years.  Let's not pretend OP did nothing.   She didn't sacrifice her career - she stayed home willingly.[/quote]

OMG.  Such belittling of SAHM.  Yet if you GET PAID to be a nanny, that is respectable, right?  Because the nanny is ACTUALLY GETTING PAID?  So taking care of kids, driving them to practices and dental appointments is only valuable work if you are actually paid to do it for another family.

Meanwhile, OP knows he is not earning enough in his career and is not pursuing more lucrative position in private sector.

On DCUM, these [b]weak make providers[/b] get all the support.

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That is because there is much envy and bitterness from many WOHMs who have to work to make ends meet.  They are married to these men.  They need to dump on SAHMs to feel better about their own lives.  A post like OPs makes them feel superior to their own choices.

Here is the simple fact - the world over, men have more money and assets than women. Most of SAHMs and most WOHMs are not high HHI.  Wealthy people do not give a damn if you are SAHM or WOHM.  In the end, I would prefer to be a wealthy SAHM with my own money, than hard working poor WOHMs who have very little money of their own. 
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OP did not agree to be a provider. He agreed to support her SAHM lifestyle until the kids were older. If OP's wife wanted to stay home, she should have chosen someone else - someone who was on board with that. she did not. So now she has to face the music.

I am a WOHM but do not for a second envy any SAHMs. We could afford to live on one salary - not because we are wealthy but because we deliberately planned our spending that way, so that if one of us loses our job we didn't have to lose our shirts. But I just couldn't stay home. I found it very hard to be with the kids during my 6 months' maternity leave - it's very isolating, hard and boring! I was longing for the office within a few months. Maybe if I were an uber wealthy SAHM, with a full time nanny and a housekeeper... sure! Otherwise, pass.

Yes yes, I know, I know, why did I even have kids, someone call CPS, terrible mother etc. etc. :lol:  [/quote]

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