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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, this is great.  At one point you said you were planning an update after a couple of other things happened - you felt like a parent (who had maybe read here?) had reached out to you.  Did that happen?

In any case, I'm glad your daughter found her voice.  It sounds like a good outcome.  
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This is OP.

Yes -- a few extraneous pieces of info:

1.   I did have coffee with another parent.  I think it was a solidarity moment for her without openly talking about what happened.  No real news there.  But, at least, I feel like there is one other parent who I can sit with at events and that is huge for me.  I had wondered how I would show up for things from this point forward.

2.  Some PPs have asked whether the coach ever found out at all even if not through me or my DD.  I suspect yes but don't know for sure.  There were enough photos on Instagram that I think it would have been impossible to miss -- I believe the Teacher-Parent knows for sure and the equivalent of Coach's Assistant (another employee of school) as well.  She has an Instagram account related to the sport that some of the teammates follow and vice versa and would have at least seen the photos.  It is the lack of chatter by the coaching staff and support staff that makes me wonder.  Almost as if they know it is a sensitive subject and therefore haven't mentioned the event itself at any subsequent practices or events.  I also wonder whether some of the kind comments about my DD's newfound confidence are related to them knowing and wanting to show her support.

3.  My DD has also had several sessions now with the private coach I offered to hire for her and that she finally decided to take me up on.   This person is a former professional though not a long-standing one or one that ever made more than the minimum salary (no endorsements, no big contract, no international or even national presence, no one anyone would know).  But this person has seen. it. all.  While the eagle eye coaching specific to my daughter has been great to smooth out some skills, the sisterhood of "let me tell you how to handle this situation" has been even better.  It is like having a big sister who talks the same language.  I think this has also helped my DD walk into the locker room everyday -- it's like the knowledge exchange with the private coach has given her a layer of armor in some way.  It isn't cheap but has been worth every penny and we don't plan to stop anytime soon.

-OP

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Hi Op. Thank you for this update. I still am hoping that someone on here that knows what school and team this is will tell the coach and the school so they can take appropriate action. I still feel that the girls got off easily and if one of the coaches knows the fact that they didn’t make a public announcement or discipline the girls means that the girls got away with this reprehensible behavior. I still don’t think it’s OK that they got off without getting into trouble.[/quote]

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