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[quote=Anonymous]The kids seem to be fully engaged with Brandon/Tina (and her son)…it’s the photo ops with the kids and Tyler that seem a little more staged. That’s true of the photo ops with Tyler and anyone Team Jen though. L

I read the above post as if the pp was being totally sarcastic about Jen being whole and over it. It’s so obvious she’s not. And that’s the frustration of much of this thread, that she won’t just be real. She won’t just say she’s not over it. She won’t say she’s not ready to move on from that life she built, bc it will look like losing since Brandon did move on, and quite well at that. She will never admit she might have done it differently if given a do-over.

Jen had a choice. She chose to kick him out immediately upon revelation. And it was a fine choice, and her choice to make, but it was not the only choice. i’ve known friends who have tackled that exact situation from every direction… And they’ve all had varying outcomes. When you choose to marry someone and intertwine your lives together… And claim you’re in it through sickness and health… there will be hard times. And when you’re faced with the hardest of things like betrayal, you have to make a choice which version of the hard you can live with. For some, the better thing is staying together and healing together and going through all the pain together. And society shames that choice sometimes but I know multiple couples who are in better-than-ever shape together many years after a huge betrayal. Not just for photos or posts. They legitimately got stronger by choosing each other. I know one who uses it as a part of ministry and she has said that as hard as it was to fight for their marriage and heal together, it would’ve been so much harder to see her kids and husband start a whole new life without her. That’s where Jen is at. Smack in the middle of the hard SHE chose. It was going to be hard either way.

In watching her story play out, I am inspired to choose healing together if ever faced with that pain. Her post-divorce desperate mess and Brandon’s post-divorce new family is not a win over what could have been choosing forgiveness and loving each other through it. They didn’t even try, by her own admission. Divorce was it. They’re a cautionary tale.[/quote]

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