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See, I've had exactly the opposite thought.   When the daughters of all gheae these WOHMs grow up, they're not even going to consider SAH with their kids because their mothers will have ingrained in them, from Day 1, that successful women simply don't stay home with their kids.  Instead, they pay other women (lesser beings, in their books), to do the actual childcare. And that is so sad, that these women will never have the support of their own mothers to raise their kids the way they choose, if that way includes staying home with them.

As a SAHM, I'm planning on supporting my daughter in any way I can, whether she chooses to be a WOHM or a SAHM, or any combination of the two.  But I'll absolutely be teaching (and showing) her the value and importance of having a SAHP.[/quote]

What a weird thing to say.  Why would you think that?  So suddenly WOHMs aren't capable of supporting their children's decisions as much as SAHMs are?
Also, be careful what you say around your kids now about other working parents.  My mom was a SAHM and absolutely supported my sisters and I in our endeavors- encouraged us to do well in school, go to college, be whatever we wanted to be.  But she could also be critical about my friends' parents who worked, and she would say so around us.  Now I'm a working mom, and she's never criticized me to my face about it, but do you think I don't remember what she used to say and wonder if she silently disapproves?

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I'm the PP and would really have appreciated you quoting the entire text, not just my response.  I was responding to the PP who claimed that SAHMs would never encourage their daughters to be WOHMs.  My point was that, using that "logic," she seemed to be saying it was ok for WOHMs to encourage their daughters to be anything but SAHMs, but not the opposite.  I would hope all women, no matter their work status, would support their daughters' decisions to raise their families as they see fit, and not belittle them if their choices turn out to be different from their mothers'.

My response was to say that although I am a SAHM, and my family places great value on this role, I would absolutely encourage my daughters to do what was best for them and their own families.  I plan on supporting them in any way I can once they have children, whether they choose to be SAHMs or WOHMs.  I hope that if they do WOH, I'm available to help take care of their children, if they'd like me to.

Considering some of the remarks re: SAHMs by WOHMs earlier on this thread and the "Mommy Wars" thread, I wouldn't be at all surprised if there are WOHMs who make it clear to their daughters that staying home with children is just "not done."  And how sad if that's what they teach their children.[/quote]

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