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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wish there could be an actual experiment done with 1000 kids. 500 have parents who give them into day are 8-10 hrs a day, starting at 6 months all the way through childhood. 500 of them have one parent who stays home age 0-3 and then is home at least from 2pm on throughout their childhood. Then ask those kids how many of them felt their parents spent enough time with them during childhood.

How a child turns out at the end, if they are successful, emotionally okay etc. is not all it is about. Sure a child can spend 8 hrs/day in daycare and still turn out successful, independent and overall fine...[b]but if that was your child and your child told you at 18 or 30 that he/she always felt neither Mom nor Dad were ever really there - don't tell me that wouldn't bother you[/b].[/quote]

I'm actually one of those kids who was in daycare a lot as a child.  I remember having to go to before and after school care every day, when all I wanted to do was sleep in a bit in the morning and come straight home after school to see my mom.  But that never happened, and yes, I do feel resentful about it.  My mom and I have had a strained relationship as I grew up and became an adult, and I've told her how much I wish she would have spent more time with me growing up.  She doesn't like to hear it, but it's the truth.  I'm currently staying home with my toddler and plan to continue if we have more children as well.  I just want them to feel more secure than I did growing up.  It may not be pleasant to hear, but it's the truth.[/quote]

Well, there's a data point.

Here's another. I was in aftercare and then a latchkey kid, because both my parents worked. And you know what? I grew up understanding that I was part of a family and that the entire world didn't revolve around me personally. I learned to be independent and self-sufficient.  I read a heck of a lot because I wasn't overscheduled.  I don't resent my mother or my father for having jobs! For heaven's sake. They loved me and nurtured me and provided for me. We are close now.

My two best friends when I was growing up both had SAHMs who were constantly hovering /smothering and micromanaging their lives. They both now live on the other side of the country from their families.

So there's another data point. [/quote]

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