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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The age of consent is 15.  After that, it's not any of my business.[/quote]

Maybe this is because I'm Indian and come from a different background and different idea about family, but this kind of thinking is just very alien to me.  : /[/quote]

Yea, uh definitely different….to say the least.

Arranged marriages are alien to me.  Seems like rape to me to have sex with a man your parents have chosen for you to marry. Absolutly archaic.[/quote]

Then you do not have any understanding of how arranged marriages work nowadays.  Brides and grooms have a choice of who they want to marry, even if it is an arranged marriage. They typically meet a few times IRL, chat on line, on phone, skype ...before they make their choice to marry. Yes, the parents and relatives play a huge part in vetting the family of the prospective bride/groom  as well as the bride/groom before they are even considered for marriage.

Anyways, I am sure it is alien to you. After all, in your culture it is considered ok to spread your legs to every loser  who buys you a drink in a bar...now that seems like prostitution to me.   No wonder you have such a high divorce rate.  I find the idea that someone thinks that after 15 what the kids do is not the business of the parents - very sad.  [/quote]

Oh stop being so sensitive. I'm Indian as well and don't think it's my business to be dictating how many sex partners my daughter should have. Obviously, I don't want her to ever feel degraded or hurt, but if her future husband isn't her first partner, not my business. As far as the divorce rate, negative stigma and being an outcast from the community plays a large part into why there aren't as many Indian couples you hear divorcing, not because an arranged marriage is the magic trick.[/quote]

Not being sensitive at all.  Parents should want their kids to be in healthy and mature relationships - not have a number in their mind of how many sexual partners they should have prior to marriage.

It should not matter if a person is a virgin or not when they marry or even if it is an arranged marriage or not - in the end what does matter is that there is communication, respect and honesty  within the marriage.  Having multiple sexual partners (or none) before marriage does not guarantee that anyone has a better chance of being happily married.

Ignorant PP above thought that arranged marriage is akin to rape. Words are cheap - ask a rape victim what rape is really like.  Anyways - the flip side of the coin is that random hooking up is akin to prostitution (where the woman actually does not get paid).  Does that sound insulting, ignorant and culturally insensitive?  Well, then my public service for the day is done.

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No shortage of rape victims in India to poll.

I'm not taking marriage or sex advice from a woman from India. Women in India are luck to make it past birth.[/quote]

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