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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had one SAH say to me - a working mom, "I'll take over your volunteer duty b/c well, you work and probably won't have the time to devote to the job."

People pass judgment all the time.  But you can't let it bother you.

In fact, I kept the job and even IMPROVED the process for handling it.  We've since left the school, but the position is still producing results!

So sometimes it's not a time issue - and I mean this with kids, too.  It's how wisely you spend your time with others - and on tasks.  And I don't think many SAHs are any more creative with their kids or better at parenting them than I am with mine.

I like work; I need childcare.  My kids are used to it. They're doing well.  [/quote]

You make an excellent point!  DH and I work f/t at careers we LOVE!  In talking with many SAHMs over the years I realized that I spend more quality with my kids and we do more family activities than the majority of the SAHMs in my neighborhood.  I get a lot of snide comments about how can I possibly have the time to do all that I do.  I have a fairly high level position at work, regularly volunteer at the school, am the school coordinator for an afterschool activity and coach one of my DC's team, send in decorated cakes/cupcakes for holidays and school events (it's a hobby but I've even made a few wedding cakes), cook from scratch most of the week, have a clean/organized house, workout 5-6 days/week, and still find time to spend a lot of time with my kids.

I'm very goal-oriented and focused on my priorities.  I laugh when the SAHMs talk about how tired they are because they had to get up at 6am one morning for some early event or how they can't "sleep in" now that summer's over.  Good for you, OP, but that's just not for me.  My kids LOVE aftercare and as a pp stated, complain when I pick them up too early.

We might have a choice to have a SAHP if my DH wanted to stay home but he doesn't.  I am not going to stay home because I provide well for my family, I LOVE what I do, I busted my butt to pay for college to be able to do something I love to do.  Why would I walk away from that?  My kids are well-adjusted, happy, healthy, and provided what we consider a very happy, well-balanced life to model after.

My opinion is that most of the SAHMs either don't have the skills it takes to balance work and home and therefore you stay home (too overwhelmed) or you did not have jobs that made enough money to make it worth working.  None of these apply to me.  Another smaller category of SAHMs I've met had careers they liked and made decent money, but felt the social pressures of needing to SAH.  Several have confided in me that they wish they had kept working now.  Once all of the kids get in school f/t they are bored and need more but it's hard to find a job right now when you've been out of the workforce for so many years.

OP, you do realize there are people like me who are NOT insecure of their choices no matter what you say.  I just laugh and feel sorry for you.  
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