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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Long time ivy educated SAHM here - so, not stupid.

OP, this is a values issue.  As you date moving forward, you can try and find a man who values family and parenting and when you are getting more serious tell him you envision parenting your children yourself, at least when they are little.  I hope you find a guy who is aligned with your vision of how you want to raise kids.

Being a mom full time is the hardest, most rewarding thing I have ever done.  I am not going to be on my death bed wishing I had spent most of my time away from my kids.[/quote]

What does being Ivy educated have to do with anything in this thread?[/quote]

Oh it's pretty much never relevant but all the SAHMs who went to Ivies will let you know about it every single time. [/quote]
Pretty much everyone who went to an Ivy will let you know.[/quote]

Reasons to mention it:

1) Conveys a certain level of intelligence.
2) Opens doors to significant career opportunities.
3) Goes against the stereotype (frequently mentioned here) that SAHMs lack intelligence and gave up "small" careers.  That we are without agency.

Also, to the responder who suggested that I am wasting my education: is the purpose of education simply to pursue a career?  That seems awfully simplistic.  Is the value measured in wages earned or impact on the world?  I would argue that raising my five kids full time has been the best way for me to give back to the world.  I am lucky that my husband is a high earner (the benefits of his education, I guess) and am positive that he would not have been able to have had as much success had we been juggling two big careers.  And I could never have handed my three month old infants over to strangers.  Sorry.  But that's the truth.[/quote]

What a bunch of pretzel logic. Let me translate: I wanted to be with my kids (and have a bunch!) and skip out on having an office job, but I did not want people to look down on me, so I spun a story to justify my preferences and must invoke my Ivy education any chance I get because I am insecure in my choices.[/quote]

I don’t know why anyone would feel the need to defend their choice to be a SAHM on this site![/quote]

And yet some SAHMs are so insecure that they frequently do.[/quote]

I was being sarcastic.  Anytime anyone mentions being a SAHM on here, 72 people come out of the woodwork to attack them.  
It’s sort of the opposite of what it was 20 years ago when my kids were babies. [/quote]

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