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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A wedding is and should be whatever the two people getting married want it to be. That said, they must be gracious if people decline to attend for any reason, including child care.

But no, "two families" are not getting married; two individuals are. So it's whatever they want. If you don't like it, decline. No one owes you a family reunion. If you want a family reunion, plan, pay for and host one. The end.[/quote]

Your opinion is quite a shift and a result of an increasingly secular, selfish society.  Yes, two families are being joined.  The whole purpose was to have family, friends and congregants witness and support the union, not to throw a formal party.[/quote]

What do you think the reception is?[/quote]

Celebrations serve the purpose of creating bonds between people - so the reception ritual (including alcohol often) is part of the overall function of the wedding to create ties between the two families and within the families. Otherwise people would not go to great expense to attend these events.

I recently spent 2 precious vacation days and $3000 I cannot spare to attend a young relative’s wedding, in large part because I knew the entire family would be there, even though I’m not super close to this relative (much younger half sister). Would I have gone to that expense just to go to say, her birthday party or a Mardi Gras party? obviously not. And guess what - [b]the bride was openly joyful and proud that in fact the wedding also served as a family reunion[/b], getting us all into the same place for the first time in maybe a decade. [/quote]

DP. Sure, and it sounds like you agree wither the couple's decisions, and everybody involved was happy. Great!

Does everyone else have to do the same as you, or can they make different decisions? That's the problem.

I have relatives who believe a major holiday should be celebrated on the eve by ritual monsters striding through the street and "beating" children with branches and sticks, threatening to take naughty children straight to hell, and a lot of public alcohol consumption. Our elders *love* this community bonding experience.

Now do I get to be justified in criticizing you for not threatening your children this way?[/quote]

True, thinking weddings are an occasion to joyfully bond with family is exactly like beating children. Exactly! [/quote]

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