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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]I finally met a lovely man. I think he runs deficit of about $700 every month. He works his tail off and didn't buy anything outrages. It's temporary and I will gladly help him fix it. I would even help him if we weren't together.[/quote]

Really? You would financially help a single adult man? Mega turn off.[/quote]

Yeah, nope. I’ve established my life independently and am not tying myself to just another dead weight. [/quote]

So what kind of income/wealth do you expect a man to have?[/quote]

Enough disposable income to match mine. Enough free time to match mine. [/quote]

Sure, but what constitutes matching yours?[/quote]

I'm a woman make about 300K a year. My average weekend outing is about $150; I take one large vacation a year at about $20K, couple small trips in the range of $5k. So it's about $15,000 on travel and $3600 on dates that a BF would need to match my expenses on entertainment and travel only. If we move in together, we would be saving on mortgage/rent so not a bad deal for him overall[/quote]

I’m similar to you financially as are most of my friends.  We’ve all come to realize that we are the ones that can afford our lifestyle.  It means we don’t date and while we miss it, we don’t miss the drama that goes along with being in a relationship.  We go out together on the weekends and always have a good time.  And we travel together.  I haven’t met a man in a similar financial situation yet.[/quote]

Yea, because if he makes less he will resent the woman for making more, will be emasculated causing all the relationship drama. I tried to subsidize men financially, it didn't work out well either (these were professional men making about 200K but with CS obligtions which I don't have). So I guess single wealthy women should prepare for solitude entering elderly years[/quote]

You want the older widowers. The ones I know were happily married, have adult children, and now have substantial assets but no one to share their lives with. We’re talking 60s and 70s. [/quote]

I’ll focus on them in my 50s and 60s if I still feel like dating at that point. For now I have a younger FWB as I’m mid 40s. [/quote]

No way am I spending my 50s and 60s taking care of an old man who won’t be there to take care of me and leaves his property to kids from his marriage.[/quote]

Why should he take care of you or leave you anything if you’ve got your own money?
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If I devote my one and only life to someone long term until death, I expect to be treated like a partner and would do the same for a partner / husband.[/quote]

You expect your wealth to pass to your kids.

You also expect his wealth to pass to you, and not to his kids.

You're just another gold-digger.[/quote]

Did you miss the part where she and not his kids cares for him in old age? The kids benefit by being able to pursue their careers instead of caring for an older parent and/or using their or his money to pay for his care.[/quote]

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