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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is a huge difference to the kids though to have a more relaxed morning and to be able to come home and rest after school instead of staying in aftercare.

I stopped working when I had my kids, went back part-time when they started school and now that they are in high school I am increasing my hours close to full-time. I have always worked from home and have an intellectually stimulating job.

I realize that I am very lucky and not everyone has the same options as I do. I have no judgment, only sympathy, for those who would prefer to stay home with kids but have to work due to financial reasons.

I will never regret staying home with the kids when they were young. I truly believe that having one lovung and engaged parent stay home is the very best for the children. Those were also some of the best years of my life and I am forever grateful that I had the opportunity.[/quote]

Our aftercare was so much fun at our school that SAHMs also sent their kids 2-3 days a week because it was one big playdate and they felt left out.

[b]I think it’s good to have 2 engaged parents and we need to start making dads part of the equation.[/b][/quote]

I agree. I much prefer that our kids spend their after school with a mix of nanny, DH and me rather than 100% with me. And because DH doesn’t have to be sole breadwinner, he took a job that doesn’t require him to work weekends, so we can hang out together all weekend.

The three SAHMs I know well, their husbands are a mess. Totally checked out. Even if they don’t work many hours, they spend a ton of free time on their phone because they “earned” it by being the sole breadwinner.[/quote]
+1  When I was a sahm with DC#2 they became super attached, had a hard time transitioning to prek and K.  DC#1 went to daycare like 6 hours a day and didn't have any issues transitioning.

DH came home around 4:30 and spent a lot of time with the kids.  At one point, we also had a nanny.   So, we've had a mix of daycare, nanny, and sahm.

I think it really helps the parent and kid to have a village raise a child.  And 100% dads should be involved.[/quote]

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