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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Also happy to hear responses from dads![/quote]

This is my response.

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When I started this thread, I was actually hopeful that there might be some decent men who’d read it and be honest enough to acknowledge, in an anonymous setting, that they definitely enjoy dad privilege and have some sense of shame about it when confronted by the issue.

I guess I’m unsurprised by the lack of that type of response and the abundance of hateful misogyny.

I trust the data, and the evidence I’ve observed with my own eyes for 5+ decades now across generations. In the majority of marriage and/or cohabiting committed hetero couples, women are still doing the lion’s share - while the lion naps in the shade.
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So how do you feel about a marriage where the woman has agreed to handle all things school-related and the husband has agreed to handle all things house-related. Those two things aren't equal, and, assuming a good partnership, one should be able to ask the other for help, but this list, to me, says that a dad has privilege if he doesn't have to know or worry about what size shoes his kids wears while ignoring the flip side of the mom privilege of not having to know what kind of oil the cars take or when the registration expires.

For the "important" things (or the things we deem important - childcare, pet care, cooking, house management, finances, etc.), my husband and I split them 50/50. For other things, he does 100% and I do 100%. We could each figure out the things the other does all of if needed. For example, I could find one of the gardener's bills and track him down if needed although I have never spoken to them and I have no idea what they are hired to do other than that I see them every once in awhile and our landscaping looks great. And my husband could look at our kids' sports gear and figure out the next size or find somewhere that sells it and take them to get something new if needed (I do the same sport as the kids and the equipment and gear is really specific so I handle it because my husband has no experience with that sport other than taking our kids to practice and competitions). But it's easier for him to handle the gardener and me to handle their sports stuff. However, I don't think his ability (or mine!) to check a box on that list saying that we never have to worry about X means our marriage is out of whack. [/quote]

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