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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] He's probably 18 now (op said 'spring) so hopefully the dc and the op don't have to worry about this anymore.[/quote]

If not yet it's getting closer.[/quote]

Hi. OP here:

Yes, my son turned 18 a little bit ago. The hell is over.

To the nasty other PP who said I “should be fined”: you’ll be happy to know the court ultimately ordered my ex to pay MY attorneys fees for bringing a frivolous motion. We did have one hearing. The judge found that I did nothing wrong and that I made all efforts to comply with the schedule. I had to go deeper into debt to pay for a lawyer, so this was a relief. I could share more details as to how exactly this all went down, but I don’t want to be easily identified.

After all this, my son is no longer speaking to my ex. And believe it or not, even though he is now 18, I have encouraged my son to go up to his dad’s any time he wants. I’ve told him he can go spend as much time as he wants there this summer, to try and “start over” with his dad. My DS won’t do it. I sincerely hope that will change in time.

I would not wish the last 9 months on my worst enemy, like I said earlier. It didn’t have to end up this way, and I’m pissed at my ex for it.

Let my experience be a cautionary tale to those parents who don’t want to listen to their 17.5 year old’s opinions and at least TRY to work out a compromise. [/quote]

Of course your son is refusing visits.  You've been clear all along that you don't want him to have visits except maybe an occasional dinner or meet up so he's doing it to make you happy.  [/quote]

OP here:

You clearly haven’t read a single one of my posts carefully, troll.[/quote]

I read your version which was you were setting this all up by finding every way in terms of excuses to sever the relationship. You taught your son friends, parties and activities are more important than dad.  Dad has no value to your child.   You won.  There is now no relationship.  Move on.  Let dad move on. Leave the man alone already.   Stop pretending you want them to have a relationship as if you really do, you’ve already done too much damage.  [/quote]

Why are you such a cheerleader for this loser Dad? Even the judge saw through his crap.

This is all on BAD DAD.

He didn't prioritize his son. So now he is done-zo.[/quote]

Why is this bad dad if dad is trying to have a relationship and the mom is blocking it, including going to court for it.  What kind of message does that send to the child?  It is clear mom doesn't want the relationship.  Why can't you see Mom is equally if not more the problem.  No matter how much Dad tries he'll always be in the wrong.  Child is 18/high school graduate.  Hopefully child support is over and Mom can be the sole parent now - both physically and financially as that's what she wants.[/quote]

Yup -- OP made it very clear that she knew dad was going to stop all support and didn't believe in providing anything for college either.  Kid knows it too. Great job Dad, in being a self centered narcissist who didn't care for the developmentally normal needs of his teen, didn't want to support him, who made it clear it was all about the Dad's need s first second and last, and who refused to compromise. Guess he got what he wanted, which was zero relationship with his kid.  Did OP say ex had a new child with new spouse? Maybe he'll have a relationship with that one.[/quote]

So, basically you are supporting that she is trying to punish him.  She got what she wanted so why complain about the lack of contact and visits now.  It's much easier to have a relationship with a child who lives with you and the mother supports the relationship.

Dad has kid 4 days a month.  That's not a lot and not being self centered.  [b]Now that he doesn't spend time with the kid, mom is complaining.[/b]  Dad can't win.[/quote]

Nope. Your reading comprehension is poor.  Try again.

This was Mom's latest post. I see not one word of complaining about Dad.

[quote]The judge found that I did nothing wrong and that I made all efforts to comply with the schedule. I had to go deeper into debt to pay for a lawyer, so this was a relief. I could share more details as to how exactly this all went down, but I don’t want to be easily identified.

After all this, my son is no longer speaking to my ex. [b]And believe it or not, even though he is now 18, I have encouraged my son to go up to his dad’s any time he wants. I’ve told him he can go spend as much time as he wants there this summer, to try and “start over” with his dad.[/b] My DS won’t do it. I sincerely hope that will change in time.[/quote]

She isn't complaining at all and she is trying to encourage her son to keep contact with his dad. Not complaining that dad doesn't spend time with his son. What happened was ALL ON DAD. He was the cause of his son's alienation. HIS actions and attitude and inflexibility caused this. Pay attention so it doesn't happen to you.[/quote]

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