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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It seems like many people commenting that they would never take anything from their kids when they are elderly and have no problems with “resources flowing down.” That is rich people perspective…talk about entitlement. If my kids didn’t offer their first class tickets to their grandparents by their own accord, I would be super disappointed with how I have raised my kids with no values.[/quote]

Can you not see that different people have different values? In certain cultures the young pay for the old. In others it’s considered offensive for the elders to receive any gifts/money from younger generations. My grandmother writes us checks on her birthday. The only thing I can give her without risk of offending her is flowers. [/quote]

This is me.  I make probably 10x what my grandmother has total and she still sends me a $50 check for my birthday.  If we get her something nice, we have to downplay it or she is very insulted.  [/quote]

But in the situation at hand, my parents could never afford to take my family on a Greek cruise and fly business class. But we can, and if we invited them of course we would pay for them. Who invites people and then expects them to pay their way? It's just bad manners. My parents would never "invite" us to cruise Greek and expect us to foot the bill. We would be the ones to make it happen. Do you all "parents pay" people invite your parents to dinner then sit back and wait for them to grab the bill? Or do you just let them do all the inviting?[/quote]

It's about being open and clear in communication. We don't know how it was initially discussed. If it was "we are doing this cruise, but it taps out on our cash budget for travel this year. We would love to do it together if you can cover your airfare and the cruise" then that is clear and open. I have plenty of friends who don't maybe exactly "invite" me to dinner but ask if I want to go out. Sometimes we pay our own bills. Sometimes the friend says it's their treat, sometimes I say it's mine. If we say it upfront from the beginning, that's open and clear communication and nobody gets the wrong idea or feels misled.[/quote]

That's different than what people are saying here. Parents pay always, money flows in only one direction! That's just not some universal truth that I've ever been aware of.[/quote]

Me either. That's why you need to communicate openly! There are no hard and fast rules. If everyone agrees to the setup and feels treated fairly, that's all that matters.[/quote]

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