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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Things no man is thinking: Gee, I wish I could get off this boring conference call so I could wash the cloth diapers and clean the oven. My wife is so lucky.[/quote]

I'll bet you there are a good number of them who would like to have a few years to think about nothing but those things, to go to work out when the want and be freed from the breadwinner pressure.[/quote]

Then they should have married a woman who has a job and split the breadwinning and the oven cleaning. The fact is that SAH is unpaid and low status, and very, very few men are going to see that as a better option than even the most tedious of paid jobs. I don't blame them! I have nothing but contempt for the women who continue to accept unpaid and low status work BECAUSE they are women and then call themselves feminists for having "chosen" this lifestyle. [/quote]

I am a SAHM. I am not an Employee. I am an Employer. I employ low paid WOHMs to do  domestic work at my house.  I guess they are not feminists because they work for peanuts and work a low status job then?

I understand from DCUM that  there are three kinds of WOHMs. 
1.  Those who have the money to hire other poor WOHMs to do domestic labor for them.  
2. Those who are not rich enough to hire these poor WOHMs  and hate rich SAHMs and WOHMs.  
3. And the poorest WOHMs who work in low paying jobs for others.

So do we even talk of the plight of the poorest women or are we glad that they are available to become our maids? They are accepting low pay and low status so that makes them sub-humans, I suppose?  :lol: [/quote]

You are willfully misinterpreting. It is not "feminist" to do the unpaid labor that your husband doesn't want to do. At least the house cleaner gets paid for her work! Ours makes $60/hour. These SAHM are doing it for FREE.
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Nope, you idiota. I am absolutely getting 50% of what my DH's make.  So not doing anything for free. Our finances are totally blended. No prenup. Married for 30 years. Happy marriage.  Besides, DH and I, had two kids together. So creating that family and raising them is invaluable to us.  Since we had wonderful, smart, beautiful kids, we loved being with them.  If our children were none of these things, maybe we would have been happy to have someone else look after them? Who knows? It is a moot point.

Plus, as mentioned above I have hired this WOHM for doing  domestic chores twice a week, so neither DH not I have to do any domestic chores we don't love to do. Now, personally, I feel that $60/hour is a lot and no one pays that much, so either you are truly  not very smart and have no idea of the going rates OR you just made it up. The latter sounds more plausible.

BTW, my maid seems utterly miserable that she is poor and has to work for a living. Given a choice she would stay home with her kid. She has no aspiration to have a career but she is burdened by her low paying career. If she does not work then she and her kid will starve. So my WOHM maid has hired another person - a WAHM, who provides substandard childcare to her kid. LOL. How ironic is that?

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