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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Things no man is thinking: Gee, I wish I could get off this boring conference call so I could wash the cloth diapers and clean the oven. My wife is so lucky.[/quote]

I'll bet you there are a good number of them who would like to have a few years to think about nothing but those things, to go to work out when the want and be freed from the breadwinner pressure.[/quote]

Then they should have married a woman who has a job and split the breadwinning and the oven cleaning. The fact is that SAH is unpaid and low status, and very, very few men are going to see that as a better option than even the most tedious of paid jobs. I don't blame them! I have nothing but contempt for the women who continue to accept unpaid and low status work BECAUSE they are women and then call themselves feminists for having "chosen" this lifestyle. [/quote]

You think you are being a feminist but what you are actually doing is buying into the idea that the work men do is important and the work women do is not. Like not only are you putting down SAHMs, you are putting down the many, many women (mostly POC) who do childcare and housework for a living. Who took care of your kids when they were young? Who cleans your house? Do you have contempt for them, too? It sure sounds like it.

Something a lot of SAHMs realize is that this work has inherent value and can offer a sense of meaning and accomplishment they never experience in paid work. I was in a corporate career for nearly 20 years before becoming a SAHM and I do not miss it. I have not convinced myself of anything (my DH would definitely have supported me continuing to work) -- I just genuinely prefer what I'm doing now to what I was doing before.[/quote]

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