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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We are all going to die anyway so stop yapping who is better or not. You all are gonna be sitting in a wet, poopy diaper eating mashed food somewhere your precious snowflakes will send you to. At the end of the day, no one is going to care of you were WOHM or SAHM or not. Good luck everyone.[/quote]

Man, ain't this the truth. The older I get, the more true this is. Both of my parents worked and had great careers, they're retired in their 70s now, and we don't sit around discussing their careers or their career accomplishments. They like to tell the same old stories about some embarrassing shit I said as a kid, some embarrassing shit I did as a kid, how cute I was as a kid, etc, etc.

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I am a Hospice Minister and spend nearly every day with dying people. No one talks about their careers at the end of life.  They are happy to answer questions if you ask.  But what they really want to talk about is family, friends, relationships, and usually spirituality. They all engage in a sort of life review and it always centers on relationships, not money.  I am by no means anti-WOHM.  I work.  However, if you think you will care about your big job or rewarding career when you are dying, you are sadly mistaken.  No one else will care either.  Your children will not care about the cases you won, the research you did, or the money you earned.  They care about the time you spent with them.

WOHMs and SAHMs both have the ability to raise independent girls.  I hope we are all making the choices that are best for our family given our unique circumstances. If you are a SAHM causing a financial strain on your family, you might want to re-evaluate. If you are a WOHM who sees her newborn for two hours a day, you might want to re-think your priorities. Most of us are just doing the best we can.[/quote]

I don't agree with you that at the end of life no one reflects back on their career. That's incredibly simplistic and reductive. It's okay to nurture a career you love, or love being financially independent, or whatever. I don't buy the attitude that every career is about money and power and 90 hour work weeks. It's not. Ours aren't. We love our family, and our careers, and we have great balance. Yes, family is more important than career, that doesn't mean you can't have a career and raise a family.

And yes, there are a lot of people at the end of life who wish they had earned more money or had the opportunity to get a great education and do work they wanted to do, instead of hard labor, or retail, or food service, or whatever. [/quote]

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