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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If the child is new,I would encourage my child to attend. It's hard to be the new kid. But honestly, my kids aren't mean. They would go and be nice even if they really didn't want to. [/quote]

Weird, why spend time with people you don't specifically like (not that you dislike the classmate, but just that you don't like them enough to want to go to their party) doing something you don't want to do? Would your kids want people trying hard to pretend to be their friends just because they're new?[/quote]

You sound like a peach. Are you a NY lawyer? My god, no wonder there are so many assholes around. Scary. [/quote]

I guess we just have different opinions on what constitutes being an asshole. To me, parties and weekend socializing are for people/events that someone specifically really enjoys and wants to go to. Just because kids are classmates or adults are coworkers, they might get along fine when they meet but simply having a classroom or workplace in common doesn't automatically mean that everyone is someone you would want to go out of your way to socialize with.[b] I'm an extreme introvert who prefers only a handful of close extremely genuine friends, and two of my three kids also tend to be fairly selective about what invitations they'll accept. [/b]However, and this is why I'm confused that you think I'm an asshole based on the above post, politeness is a must. There are only two ways it's acceptable to handle an invitation: accept enthusiastically or decline gracefully. I and my kids know this. Even if we chose not to go to this party (my two older kids would likely decline unless the birthday child was one of their closest friends), all we would say is something along the lines of "Thanks for the invitation but I won't be able to make it. Hope you have a great birthday!" Asshole?[/quote]

Sorry but OPs daughter does not sound at all like a kid who is painfully shy and introverted.

Any 8 year old opting out of parties with the new girl because she and her friends have decided the party is, in her words, "too lame" is not an introvert...she is one of the "cool" kids.

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Way to make this about you, introvert PP[/quote]

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