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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some of the responses on this thread are disturbing. Do people really believe that once you are divorced/widowed and have children that you are no longer "allowed" or should want to find love again? I can't even wrap my mind around this idea. Humans are social creatures and we are all deserving of love. Sometimes marriages don't work out for a variety of reasons, again because we are HUMANS and not robots. I completely agree that one should not bring in another step parent unless it is a right fit for the family and that person gets along with your children. I believe that you can still have your children's best interest in mind and still have a new relationship. I am also saying this as a parent myself who is married, but I know that if my DH and I did not work out or he died, I certainly would hope I would not be considered a monster if I found an amazing and loving man that I wanted to share my life with, along w/ my children. I would also hope that my husband would do the same. I would want him to find love again. I would trust that the both of us would not bring someone into our children's life that was "bad". Also, your children eventually grow up and leave the nest and start their own famlies, and I would hope that your own children would want their parent to be happy and not alone. I think the other part of this thread that is strange is that we live in 2016, where many famlies are blended and come in different shapes and sizes, mainly because the divorce rate is high and shit happens! The people responding about being repulsed by this idea seem to be of an older generation maybe? I am in my mid 30's and have friends in the same age range and in their 40's who are divorced and remarried and they have blended famlies and things are going very well for all involved.   [/quote]

Raising kids is an enormous sacrifice. Don't like it? Don't have kids. Because if you do it wrong, you're going to screw people up for generations. The world would be A LOT better if people who couldn't deal with that reality just didn't have kids. [/quote]

I am not even sure this deserves a response back...I think this view of the world being so black and white is narrow minded!! I guess you missed the part about people being humans and sometimes things don't work out with married people. To name a few; substance abuse, emotional/physical abuse, infidelity, addiction to gambling, cruelty, abandonment, and death....sometimes people have children before these other things come into play, that does not make them any less of a good parent or that they should have not had children!! It also does not mean they should have to spend the rest of their lives alone. I am pretty concerned for your own children, because you seem to have very little understanding of the world or empathy toward people who may not have the same "blessed" circumstances as yourself. [/quote]

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