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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, what you are experiencing is a natural progression of a marital relationship. How old is your child? Why does divorce scare you?

I suggest individual counseling first. Maybe once you sort yourself out, you can suggest couples' counseling to your wife. But in my experience, once the relationship is done, it's done. You can choose to move on, to tolerate it with whining or without whining. I doubt you can fix this, you'll be wasting time and delaying the inevitable. Good luck to you whatever you decide.[/quote]

Or instead of spending money to talk to a stranger who probably can't help, you could spend the cash doing fun things together.  Go on hikes, vacations, to see indepdent films, have date nights, work on a home improvement project, travel etc.  [/quote]

It takes two to tango though. If one of the two has checked out mentally, no amount of hikes and films will change that.[/quote]

This.  We recently went to a dinner event and she didn't spend much time with me, which is fine her friends were there and she wanted to socialize.  But in the way home...on her phone.  [/quote]

[b]How does this incredibly boring woman who has no interests besides two television shows manage to have friends?[/b]

Honestly, if I were her, I would prefer to hang out with people who found me fun and interesting rather than the guy who thinks I am literally the most boring person on the planet.

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Is this a real question? Is having friends incredibly difficult for you, PP? Plenty of bores get together on a regular basis, I can assure you.[/quote]

I have never actually met a boring person, so I wouldn't know.  Everyone I have ever met has a past, interests, opinions, values, things that they find funny, and things that make them sad.  I have met thousands of people through my work and personal life, including those with profound developmental delays and schizophrenia, and not one of them is as boring as OP is portraying his wife.

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The definition of boring in this context can be fluid. I don't know why y'all got hung up on the 'boring' comment so much.

I'm sure you've met plenty of folks you didn't click or simply didn't want to hang out with. Besides, it's much easier not to seem boring to a stranger for a short period of time. Much harder after years of marriage :lol: Don't judge. The bulk of OP's beef is not with how boring DW is. There is a disconnect, they're probably just growing apart etc. Happens every day.[/quote]

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