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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's just a numbers game.  Most people in their 40s are married.  Few people in their 20s are married.  All else being equal, people in their 20s are more physically attractive than people in their 40s (of course there are exceptions).
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+1 absolutely.  the pool of single 20 year olds is much larger just through sheer statistics.

but OP you are right to be worried about the age difference.  and frankly, other than obviously being flattered by a 20 year old's interest in you, and her being a cute young thing, it doesn't sound like you're that into her.

i have seen that age difference work, but not under the circumstances you described.  your young, vivacious 20 year old will turn into a 40 year old and become more 'jaded' and mature. she will also eventually see you as flawed and crotchety, and you will disappoint her (this is true in every relationship!)

it sounds like your ego can't really handle that, and you are more enamored with her age and idealization of you than the person herself.  its doubtful this alone will survive the hardships of marriage.  in that case just keep dating 20 year olds, if all you really want is the ego stroking and go pro camming adventures!

if instead you really want a life partner, be realistic about what you are willing to sacrifice and bring to the table: financial support?  willing to share your partner with kids?  what kinds of extra responsibilities are you willing to take on to help support a partner?  would you help care for an aging in-law?  sell your boat to pay for your step kids college?  obviously, relationships are hard work, thinking you can end run around that by snagging a cheerful 20 year old is not the case.

i would also make sure you've done the work to figure out what went wrong in your first marriage and what you could have done differently to help sustain it, so you are not doomed to repeat those mistakes.

good luck.  [/quote]

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