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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are so many teens in this area that are so obnoxious, so disrespectful and I think it comes down to parents in most cases. Rich, middle class and poor alike. Students harassing and bullying teachers is common occurrence today, and then often parents taking kid's side rather than disciplining the kid. What do you think we should do differently, why are there so many kids who feel they can insult and bully teachers, parents, police officers? What are we doing wrong? Teens were always rebellious and there was always talking back, but I think now it is becoming like a contagious disease with no boundaries. What should we as parents do?[/quot

Over the weeks I walk my dogs through the streets of my NW DC neighborhood where there are very clear signs that many children live but I never hear or see any of them.  I think this has something to do with.  To much structured time and not enough free time and a sense of community togetherness.  As I kid I would never behave poorly knowing the parents of one of my friends may see me and tell my parents.  This is what is lost.  Community and accountability.  This leads to normal poor teen behavior to compound itself[/quote]

This makes a lot of sense.  Too much structured time and no proper socializing and engaging in unstructured activities with peers, by a tutor, in sports, etc..No neighbour boy to come home crying about a kid kicking him or his bike, and then parents to go talk to that kid's parents. I do remember my grandma would sit on the porch and always comment how such and such was walking with  a boy/girl they didn't know, wasn't from here.  And she wasn't sitting alone, all other older women were there with her, chatting and what we call gossiping.  But, everybody knew everything that was going on, now nobody knows anything.[/quote]

PP I notice this for my upper NW kid and it makes me sad for her loss.  Kids do not run in packs, parents do not look out for other people kids, and there is no longer an abilty to tell a kid that is behaving poorly to self correct without fearing recourse.  Once we get some of that back, we will see changes in our communities. Certainly less isolation.

I must say though, I grew up on a small down in the 80/90's and not an urban environment,  I am not sure if this ever existed in DC/areas or if something else existed at that time.[/quote]

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