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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I have to admit, I think most of your mom- and MIL-hosted showers are fine.

I was trying to think of how to avoid the situation that I'm in (and that others have shared they have been in), when your MIL wants to throw a party for herself (with a guest list  of people that I literally have never met before), and you feel guilty about saying no to her (because she's an old lady and it's her grandchild, etc.) even though you feel that the whole thing is rude.

But I can see that most of your showers are really fine, and that no one is put out about them.

My next idea is that we just get rid of showers altogether!! I mean, they are stupid right? Can't we celebrate babies another way?? [/quote]

OP, if you are the same poster as the other thread that was updating about the shower/sip and see her MIL is throwing, I hope you get through your emotions and show up with a smile on your face and no expectations. There's no point in going in with a chip on your shoulder, that will just assure a bad time for yourself and other. It's happening, accept it, get through it and move on. I say this as a person who adjusted down my expectations for visits with my in laws and now just say "it will be fine" and it almost always is. [/quote]

Thanks. I do know how to behave in social situations. Although my DH points out there may be additional indignities awaiting me, that we cannot have anticipated, regarding this party, I expect to get through it all right.

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