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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Actually, I think encouraging women to use sex as some sort of carrot is just as sexist and misogynist as telling women to put up and shut up.

My view is this:  Sex is a part of marriage.  If you are upset with your spouse and don't want to have sex, then you need to figure out how to resolve that.  If it can't be resolved and if you don't foresee ever wanting to have sex with your spouse, then you should divorce or agree to an open marriage.  This goes for men and women.

It's manipulative to use sex as some sort of punishment or reward.

No, no one should feel forced to have sex.  But if you don't want to have sex with your spouse, you shouldn't be married to him/her.  If you are staying married for the kids or for some economic reason, then you should at the least allow for an [b]open marriage[/b].  [/quote]

What is the benefit of an open marriage vs just divorcing? I guess I don't see why anyone would agree to have an open marriage. What other aspects of the marriage are they so tied to that they would want their partner to be constantly out on the prowl?[/quote]

As someone in an open marriage, I will try to explain. I have more than 20 years of history with my husband, raised/raising children with him. We have mutual friends, we love each other's families. I am happy to grow old with him. He and I were slightly sexually incompatible before marriage, and that gulf widened over the years. He simply isn't comfortable giving me what I crave sexually, and neither of us want the marriage to end. I have sex with one other person; I'm not "constantly out on the prowl."[/quote]

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