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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Marriage was not sexless. As a matter of fact, we were TTC while DH was cheating. So I'm really not sure where all of these PPs are getting this information.

That said, I sought a different, more tender, more intimate form of sex with my husband as I was/am both healing from childhood sexual abuse and my husband watched/es porn compulsively. It's a messy foundation. I can definitively say that I, at least, was unsatisfied with our sex life when I found out about the cheating. 
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Your husband watches porn compulsively? And cheats? And you had an active sex life, but it wasn't very good for you? Sounds like what happened with me. Have you considered sex addiction as an issue for him? Does he think it's a problem? Just curious, because my husband had/has a problem with it, as well as other serious issues, and sought therapy, does a 12-step (SAA), and other things, with positive results.

I think you must seriously pursue more therapy for yourself, as a childhood sexual abuse survivor, because when a husband cheats and then tries to push you into physical contact of any kind when you're still hurting, it feels like that old feeling you had, being molested as a child, doesn't it? And that's terrible for you. He's not really concerned about you, tries to push boundaries by emotionally manipulating, and really just wants to get his needs met. Your reaction may actually be a healthy, self-protecting reaction to him. [/quote]

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