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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]MIL says (to DH) that she isn't there to watch and she just wants to be part of welcoming her grandchild to the world, [b]same as my mom[/b].[/quote]

Uh huh.  PP had it right that your mother is NOT there to welcome her grandchild (who will have absolutely no memory of the event and couldn't care less).  Your mother is there to support YOU.  That your MIL is making this about her and her grandchild should be making you rethink your relationship.  Boundaries must be established and must be respected!  That your DH is waffling on this is just appalling!

I'm so pissed on your behalf (and I last gave birth 11 years ago).  Just know that the delivery room staff will bar anyone you don't want in there.  You don't have to be angry, you don't have to be yelling, you don't have to throw a fit.  You just tell them you only want your DH and your mother in there.

Show this thread to your DH.[/quote]

Rest assured OP's mom is not their to support her daughter. She's their to be the first grandparen to see the grandkid and will brag about it the rest of your kid's life. I thought like you and OP , but I was wrong. I shouldn't have  had my mom mom in the room.

Your kid's birth is a good time to grow up and top having mommy hold your hand.[/quote]
Hi, Op here. I understand what you're saying but actually my mom will be there solely as support to me. She used to work as a doula. Also, we are very close and although I have been "an adult, supporting myself, etc." for a long time, she is my best friend and will be a great comfort to me as a soon to be FTM. I'll be honest, I'm pretty nervous about the birthing process and I'm doing it completely unmedicated. And while I feel 100% confident in my decision to use a birth center, all of my friends with babies have been terrifying me with how painful it was. And they all used epidurals!

I think I will ask my DH to read over this thread when he gets home from work tomorrow, and then we can discuss it again what is the best decision for our family. If I decided to take off my clothes and be totally uncovered, I think I would die from embarrassment of my MIL was in the room. She has never done anything bad to me, but we are not close. Even at family gatherings we barely speak, simply because she is kind of a quiet person and my husband is very talkative. So everyone tends to focus on him.[/quote]

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