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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As the mom of two boys I get where your mil is coming from.[b] Right from the start you have stated your mom is the more important grandmother. [/b]Your choice to not want your mil there but don't pretend you aren't sending a clear message to your mil about how you feel she is less important than your mom. This child is 50% your dh's but your mom gets to have 100% the excitement of the moment and mil gets zero. In my case I chose to have neither mother there because I didn't want to send that message. Keep it special to just you and your dh and let both grandmas meet the new bundle of joy at the same time. [/quote]

Actually, OP's mom will be there not in her capacity as the baby's grandmother, but as OP's mom.  OP's mom was there when OP was born, has changed OP's diapers, bandaged her knees, walked the floor with her at night when OP was a sick baby, supported OP for decades.

If OP wants her mom there it is completely understandable.[/quote]

Even if op mom is there to support her daughter she still gets the benefit of seeing the baby first. This is huge bragging rights amongst my mom my mil and others in both of their circles. You can justify it in your head any way you want but the fact remains that ops mom reaps the benefits of being the mom not the mil. Is ops mom really going to say ok baby is out I will just wait with everyone else before I see the baby and hold it. Of course not. She will have seen and held that child hours before mil does. Pretending otherwise is foolish. [/quote]

You sound just as irrational and selfish as OP's MIL. [/quote]

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