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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]MIL here.  Your points are some of the same things we complained about with OUR MILs! And the generations before us, and so on and so on.   So I don't think that dynamic is ever going to change.

One thing that I have learned over the years, is that I don't think  my MIL was being as critical of me as I thought she was. And I wish I had good-naturedly embraced her fixing his favorite foods, indulged it even. We call them "comfort foods" now.  She called it "love".

Dietary and nutritional guidelines and recommendations change over the years as well. You can listen to and not act upon her recommendations. A nice vague response could be "that's interesting point, I'll ask the pediatrician about that".

No child is going to be ruined or scarred for life by allowing an occasional grandparent treat or indiscretion, dietary, or bedtime, or tooth brushing, or otherwise.  Kids are waaay to smart for that one.

This may seem like capitulation and work on your part, but it's not really.   You both love your husband and the children so make a jumping off point.

And BTW, the spoiled-by-the-husband wife of my generation is largely an urban myth. Only know of two of them and neither one is me! [/quote]

This is a wonderful response. I completely agree. I don't understand why so many DIL's can't just listen to and briefly go along with the MIL just to keep the pease and indulge her. Hey, maybe you might even end up liking some suggestions. Maybe MIL doesn't have the best bedside manner sometimes (my own mom doesn't), but most things come from a place of caring and wanting to be included or help. Why is it so terribly difficult to indulge the MIL and not immediately rebuff her? Be the bigger person. [/quote]

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