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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know at least 4 minority women in my professional circle who I am so baffled are still single. 2 are Indian, 1 Pakistani and 1 Nigerian. They are all so stunningly beautiful with yoga and barre toned bodies, illustrious fancy careers and great fashion sense. Do minority women who are successful struggle more with dating? [/quote]

(Shhh... It's because they're not blonde and/or white.)[/quote]

No, it's actually probably because they're not willing to date white men, yet are too American to date men of their own cultures. I bet your acquaintances are all second generation women.

The vast majority of successful men in this country are white and those who aren't white are immigrant men.  American men of color simply don't do well in large numbers and if they form the majority of a woman's options, she will end up either alone or married to something that should be discarded.

Virtually all first generation Nigerian women I know -- myself included -- are happily married at young ages. But we are all married either to fellow first generation Nigerian men or to white men. I married a Jewish man at 26. My sister married an ultra white bread Kansas-raised white man at 29. My cousins are all married to Nigerian men. The only divorced woman in my circle is the second generation Nigerian who married an African American man. He was actually well educated, but was unfaithful and more into clubbing than building a family. Most African American men simply don't have good family values because they weren't raised with them.[/quote]
You do know Nigerian men are notorious for cheating on their spouses, right?[/quote]
You sound like an AA insulted by PP's candor. She isn't lying. The stats on AA men and marriage are dismal. There was even a study confirming they are the most likely to cheat. Taking shots at more successful communities doesn't fix the cracks in yours. [/quote]
PP isn't lying either, Nigerian men are known for being unapologetically  unfaithful.[/quote]
Faithful or not, the African men I see around are devoted to their families and work hard for them. The AA men not so much.

Infidelity is a common problem in marriage, but when you're also dealing with someone who doesn't work hard, is a poor parent, and has no concept of family, there's nothing to hold together.

I think this is what is plaguing AA communities whereas I don't think anyone can dispute that African communities are strong.[/quote]

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