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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a divorce attorney, I have seen fathers get primary custody only in three circumstances:

(1) Mom doesn't want custody (used to be unheard of early in my practice, but now, in my 23rd year of practice, roughly once a year, I come across a mom who doesn't want custody).

(2) Father is a stay at home dad or works very little and has been the kids' primary caretaker for a long time.

(3) Mom has severe and documented mental or substance abuse problems. If the problems aren't documented, the man will need a slew of witnesses with nothing to gain (so, for instance, kids' teacher but not dad's meddling mom who is eager to edge out biological mom).

I have never seen a man get primary custody against an involved, normal mother who is fighting for custody. The most he can hope for is 50/50.[/quote]

Yes but watch an unscrupulous attorney work really hard to portray a mom as mentally ill. If she's not up for the fight she can definitely lose.
Most people have some issue in their closet or out in the open that can be exploited by the right person. If ex to be is vengeful I'd hire a very thorough attorney and not be trying for mediation or anything like that.[/quote]
PP divorce lawyer here. It is not the unscrupulousness of dad's lawyer that matters in cases of false accusations. It is the second factor you mentioned: whether or not mom is up for the fight.  I have seen women have breakdowns when called upon to fight for their children or refuse to take good advice, thinking that if they put up less of a fight, dad will remember he loves mom again.  And then when it is too late, mom realizes dad wasn't kidding and is going all the way with his bid for full custody. If OP wisens up and fights for her kids, the most dad will get is 50/50.[/quote]

Sadly, such fights take not just spine but money.[/quote]

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