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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I want specifics on how husbands have reacted. Have they said anything? Specific changes? Questions?[/quote]

Mostly DH goes along with it and doesn't complain. When he does complain, it's more like his version of, you used to cater to me and now I'm not getting what I want when I want it. WTF?

For example, he's an incredibly picky eater. I've always catered to him and planned meals around him. I just mentioned I'm making fish one night next week for dinner, and of course he only tolerates fish rather than enjoys fish. I'll make sure he likes the sides. It was a text convo. He responded: fish? I said: yes, cod. If you're going to make something else for your dinner because fish isn't your favorite, would you please make some for oldest DD too? She doesn't love fish either, but when she complained I reminded her about the studies showing that the more you eat a food, the more you tolerate or learn to like it. Just let me know that morning what you decide so I know how much fish to make. He responded: No, that's ok. I'll eat fish, it's just not my favorite. Could you make some corn on the cob to go with it? We both like that as a side dish. And of course I said I was fine with that and will be sure to add corn to the grocery list.

I think the thing that works for me is (in addition to being more assertive generally) heading him off at the pass, but not letting it turn into an argument. by asking if he wanted to make an alternative meal for himself, I made it clear that I had no interest in making two separate meals for dinner on the same night. I also made it clear that other people would be "merely tolerating" the fish along with him, so I'm not singling him out and trying to make food he dislikes just to be mean to him. The old me would've waited until he was out of town to serve fish. [/quote]

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