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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, the teacher needs to do more about behavior and hands to self.  He probably need to be in activities or get more exercise.  I would get an evaluation to make sure things are ok.

Please address it.  My kid comes home every day complaining about another child putting their hands on him.  He wouldn't mind tickling but at that age its not appropriate as you know.  He is very upset by it.  He has SN so he will not complain to the teacher due to his needs.  I have talked to the teacher and the child is bothering everyone/not picking on my child but it is very upsetting and is a big deal to some kids.

Some of it is just personality and you want to encourage his personality but in the right way.  Maybe do a behavioral chart with him?[/quote]

OP here. Thanks. I've tried a chart but it seems like at almost 9, the consequences have to be more severe but just not sure how. He's not physically hurting anyone and doesn't mean to bother anyone with the touching. I think he believes he's being affectionate. He doesn't like when other kids are wrong and he feels the need to step in and correct them which will probably work out in the end when kids think he's annoying. Hope it doesn't come to that! [/quote]

At 9, he needs to understand the he needs to ask for permission to touch someone except family, etc.  He may not mean to bother anyone but he is.  And, it can be upsetting to kids like mine who have SN and are not always up to saying stop or leave me alone.  At some point, he will take it too far and a kid will retaliate or hit him back.  I know if it continues I will consider telling my kid to put the other child off him as the child (and it is not your child) is making school miserable for him as he keeps getting attacked either from behind or in the front.  I'm sure the school will be angry but they are not doing enough to keep my child safe.  My kid is starting to not want to go to school and its bad enough we may have to pull him out or go to another classroom.

If he has been evaluated and everything is ok, then you and the teacher need to make a clear plan.  You need to be consistent at home and instead of punishment, I'd make him make ipad/video games/tv/computer time based on good behavior and hands to self.  Make a clear chart and have the teacher fill it out daily.  The teacher sounds like an issue if he did better the second half of last year.  There are probably a lot of kids in the class and he gets very little 1-1 attention or support.  Maybe a smaller school, if you could afford a private would be better with a lot more structure.  He may just be immature but it needs to be dealt with now or he is going to be bullied very soon as once kids get older enough is enough.

At this point, I'd bring the school counselor in and ask for a 504 and see if he can get some counseling.  I'd also see a private therapist who maybe can work with him.  Also, get him into some activities, like Karate that can work on self-regulation.

Everyone on this board is ready to push ADD, ADHD and Autism.   Its easy and then you medicate and all is well.  Medication helps some kids but its not something that should be used till the last resort.  Try behavioral techniques first, both at home and at school.[/quote]

Behavioral therapy would be the right first choice for high functioning autism as well. [/quote]

I wasn't talking about behavioral therapy.  And, this is not high functioning autism.  I don't get why so many on this board say it is autism, ADD or ADHD.  It sounds like its a school/classroom issue.  Schools are not empowered to do something.  It will become an issue when another kid gets fed up and pummels her kid so she finally will work with the teacher and complain about the other kid.  My kid is the one being attacked and honestly, I've had enough and if it continues I will be the parent to tell my child to push the other child off him as its beyond reasonable that day after day a child touches other kids and there are no consequences.  I am not going to wait till my child is hurt before the school will take action.

This kid needs a more specialized setting or a small private that can give him guidance and support.  Mom needs to work with the teacher on a behavioral plan with a reward system.  Punishing a kid like that will not be effective.  Mom clearly gets the issue as she is posting but labeling a kid and medicating is not the answer.  Working on the behaviors is.  You don't need a therapist to do it.  You need a good parent and good teacher both on the same page and very consistent.[/quote]

Wow, chill out. You have no idea what it is. People are saying ADHD and autism because that is what it sounds like. You don't own special needs. You really need to deal with your xhild's school personally and your anger issues and stop projecting. [/quote]

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