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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That sucks, OP. I had a great childhood too with a SAHM who sewed my costumes.  When I had my first kid and put him in daycare she was not OK with it.... But it wasn't because she didn't want be to have a career,  it's because she was worried my kid would not get the care he should. She ended up offering to be the caregiver for my child and it has been amazing for everyone.  Maybe your mom wants to be involved? You could ask if she'd like to help make the costumes... Or maybe I am giving your mom too much credit. [/quote]

I'll be the first to admit that I would be really sad if my grandchild was in daycare.  My DIL SAH, so it's not an issue.  Unlike the OPs mother, I wouldn't say anything negative about it.  It's not my place.  But I would offer to take care of the baby to keep him out of daycare.

Several posters are suggesting jealousy - I really doubt that's the cause.  It's much more likely that your mother thinks kids need mom or dad as a primary caregiver when they are young.  As a grandparent, I can understand that.  Again, I would never say anything to my son or DIL about their parenting choices, but it would kill me to think of my grandbaby in daycare all day. [/quote]

Sounds like you should have spent a few years in the workforce once your kids were in school. You would've gained some perspective.[/quote]

I did.  I worked for many, many years when my kids were older. Listen, I have every right to express my feelings in a thread about why Grandma might be upset about daycare. I think I was very clear that I would never say anything to my kids about their parenting decisions.  It's not my place. However, I do feel strongly that many of the problems we are seeing as a society are directly related to babies and young toddlers being forced into daycare at a such a young age.  I think it's about way more than simply separation from mom or dad.  It's a shift in priorities. [/quote]

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