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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If I have to force you in the shower trust me it will be ice cold. Talk about a kid screaming bloody murder. Never happened again though. [/quote]

OP here. Great idea.

My son has been made aware that he will shower every day, or lose all privileges. Including his friends birthday tomorrow and field trips with school. I'm done fighting over showers. He is also responsible for loading last nights dinner dishes into the dishwasher because I had to fight with him for an hour rather than clean up.

He will either figure it out, or his life will suck. [/quote]

You seem to have an authoritarian approach to life-how's that working for you?

Have you tried sitting down with your son during a non shower time and calmly discussing the problem and brainstorming solutions together? [/quote]

See that's the thing. I'm NOT authoritarian. AT ALL. We have ZERO other behavior issues. He does his homework most nights without fuss. He loves to read, does well in school (loves math and science). Consequences for bad behavior in my house are logical, and so far have good results (after a rough spell from 3-5 years old). The shower however, is a TOTALLY different issue. We've tried picking out soap that he likes, we've tried every other day, I've tried every day, and if I'm not 100% dilligent and willing to FIGHT TOOTH AND NAIL he WILL NOT shower. Or take a bath. Or get clean in the sink. And yes, He MUST USE SOAP. He SMELLS. He doesn't care. It's like a badge of honor. It's not medical, its not sensory, its not anxiety, its just stubborn refusal.

This is the [b]one [/b]remaining problem we have - and its HORRIBLE. I don't fight with him, ever (I remove privileges when necessary, but its never a big deal, just put the Kindle away and disengage) over anything else. Showers for some reason are different. He just R.E.F.U.S.E.S. to get in. There is no removing privileges for it, it DOES NOT WORK. I've tried previously. But only one or 2 at a time. And he just says, "OK, sounds good, I'll be in my room reading" because reading is the ONE thing I have refused to use as a punishment to date. So now, its ALL privileges. If it doesn't work, he's going to be one stinky smelly child.

Maybe I need to turn around the doorknob on the bathroom so that I can lock it from the outside and don't have to play tug or war with the door while I'm shutting him inside the bathroom to force the issue. Maybe that would work, but I can't change the knob until he's at my ex's house for a weekend because learning is going to be a production, and I can't do that and cook dinner every night, plus fight over the shower, and exercise, and make sure the laundry is done, and make it to work on time, and and and and and and.

And YES I have asked him why he won't shower. I HAVE brainstormed with him what will work. He says "Nothing" or "I don't know" or "I don't want soap in my eyes" (tear free shampoo does not help - btdt FAIL) or "I'll do it on MWF" (FAIL) or "I'll do T/Th" (FAIL) or ..... you name it I've tried all of the things. He STILL WON'T SHOWER. Or take a bath.[/quote]

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